Depression is a prison where you are both the suffering prisoner and the cruel jailer.
~ Dorothy Rowe
Could depression counselling benefit you?
• Are you too tired to engage with others or even think straight?
• Does it seem like you’re isolated by dark thoughts and feelings?
• Can you hear yourself saying “I’m fine …” when you know it isn’t true?
• Do you lose patience with the smallest things?
Answering “Yes” to any of these questions can indicate depression, ranging from life-sapping self criticism to dangerous lapses in self care. Maybe you feel that nothing in life has value and it seems like you’re counting time until it’s done. Maybe you can’t believe anyone would actually care for you, or you don’t believe those who say they do. Perhaps depression has drained activites you used to enjoy of meaning for you. And maybe, in any case, you’re past caring.
For each person, depression is different. It is unique, like you are, and it is personal. Depression may be comprised of self talk which explores and increases your misery. You may feel the effects of depression physically, if you are tired to the point of exhaustion. Or perhaps your depression comes with specific symptoms. Headaches? Stomach troubles? Blurred vision?
As a result, it would hardly be surprising that everything feels hopeless. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, even getting out of bed can be too much effort. In the end, you are probably asking – what’s the point?
We all feel blue sometimes …
The problem with depression is that you feel low, fatigued or irritable most of the time, maybe even all the time. Depression can overtake you suddenly, if something upsetting has happened, or perhaps it has come on gradually, over a series of disappointments. And when it takes hold, it can be hard to remember happier times, when you felt resourceful and competent.
Does it feel like you are alone with depression, ashamed that you’re not coping as well as you would like? If so, you may be surprised to realise how common depression is. Statistics published in 2015 indicate that one in four people will experience mental distress, with depression appearing to be a leading affliction in the UK and worldwide.
The good news is that it is possible to resolve the thoughts and physical sensations that create and maintain depression. With the help of a compassionate, experienced coach and therapist – especially one with experience of moving forward with depression counseling – you can rebuild a sense of contentment and enjoyment in your life.”
You may already know what depression has cost you …
Time, relationships, vitality and a sense of vision for your life can all get lost in a ‘black hole’ of despair. So, it’s important to know there are ways to loosen the grip of depression on your life. True, it needs your trust and commitment, in choosing to hold the hope that things can be different. To this end, I walk alongside you as a coach and mentor, to build resilience and commitment to making the positive changes you want. I advocate using creative paths to connect you with a sense of self-acceptance and enjoyment in life.
My programmes are super-affordable, to make ongoing support a possibility for you, no matter what your circumstances. It isn’t my intention to tie you down. Rather, we work together to set you free from depression, in a way that is safe for you and which allows me to work with care, in an ethical framework.
“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.” ― David Richo
What you can expect in therapy …
It doesn’t work, trying to ‘talk you out of depression’, at least not right away. I don’t say “Cheer up, it might never happen”, because chances are good, it already has. So, with depression, there is a part of us that expects what happened before to happen again, and fears that things can never get better. So instead, we start by talking about your life, right now. And we discuss what you would prefer, in terms of your experiences.
Working with mind and body together – in a way similar to journalistic interviewing – my aim is to find out what’s going on, what needs to change, and what can safely change, for you. In a session, I might end up talking about your heart, or your stomach, or the pain in your lower back, to gain more awareness of matters of importance for you.
I am trained in different approaches and may use one or a combination of these therapies when we are talking about depression:
Hypnotherapy gives you a space for breathing, to take time out and relax. It an also be a way to uncover new and creative solutions for troublesome issues.
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUES (EFT)
EFT works powerfully with the anxious thoughts that fuel depression at a measured pace. It is possible to move beyond traumatic experiences and EFT provides an elegant way to make peace with the past.
COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL COACHING
Cognitive Behavioural processes target the objective truths of a situation, allowing you to take charge of your experience of the world. The reality check that CBT provides is often helpful for facing depression
Meditation practices have been used for thousands of years not only to create a calm and peaceful state, but also to observe the turmoil that can overwhelm the human brain. As a result, meditation often brings us to a place where we meet and accept the chaos of the human condition. Over time, meditation allows you to consider your situation from a place of calm awareness. Your depression can be noticed, considered, monitored and negotiated with.
Like Mindful Meditation and Hypnosis … Transpersonal healing accesses a profound level of awareness, even to the level of cellular function and DNA coding. Healing processes work with genetic and dynastic aspects of trauma and despair.
If you’re depressed, it feels like nothing can make things better …
and … you may have questions like these:
I’ve tried to find support and it didn’t work out. How will this be different?
Your depression is there for a reason, and while we might not know what that is, if you are considering therapy, it’s because you want to try doing things differently.
In structured sessions the space is there for you to explore and put to rest troubled feelings, and to consider what you want to have happen instead.
What’s the point, when everything around me is a mess?
Sometimes, when things break apart, they can come together in a different way. Perhaps in your current circumstances, that thought is not helpful. However, know that everything can change. My aim is to help you access your power of ‘choice, for making change a positive process in your life.
I’m anxious all the time … what can you do to stop my negative thoughts?
Depression often alternates with anxiety, so even when you’re in a ‘good’ space, something can happen to trigger anxious thoughts. Then, anxiety can swing you back to depression, where negative thoughts begin tormenting you again. We work together to bring awareness to the ‘anxiety~depression’ cycle, so you can consider: What are the alternatives to thinking like this. Do I have to act on these thoughts? With practice, you learn to make choices about who – and how – you want to be.
Depression is like an old friend … who would I be without it?
One client referred to depression as the ‘default setting’. It can be familiar and a kind of ‘cold comfort’. The point is to become aware that things can be different, and to know that you deserve better.
How can I know if this type of work is safe for me?
This work is individual and different for everyone. Because of the sensitive and confidential nature of depression counseling, I don’t ask for testimonials.
And, these are the kinds of things that people say: “I’m grateful that you never talked down to me, like other professionals have … like you were the one who knew and I didn’t”. Others have talked about feeling lighter, or feeling like they are ready to try again, or that they are ready to take themselves off meds and ‘go it alone’.
How will I know if you are the right therapist for me?
A good question to ask a prospective therapist is: “Have you have done the work you advocate yourself?” All the practices I use have helped me to walk forward from my own brush with anxiety and depression. I used these techniques to forge my own path and to let go of thought patterns I realised no longer served me. And this is what I teach.
First of all, if my approach sounds like it might be the right one for you, download my sample relaxation session where you will hear my voice and get a feel for how I work.
Therapy really can help …
And, if things I’ve said here resonate with you, you can find out more by emailing me for my Tip sheet on ways to overcome depression. After that, if you want to discuss working with me one to one, you can book a free 30-minute telephone session. I’ll look forward to sharing what I’ve learned with you.
I offer sessions in London SE4 – 10 minutes from London Bridge – and wherever you are via Skype.
Call or send me a message via my Contact Page to arrange a free, no obligation session to find out how you can move beyond self doubt to build high self-esteem and conviction in your own worth.