Overcoming Trauma and PTSD

Does the trauma of a past experience still affect you?

  • Chain Link FenceDo you believe you should ‘just get over it’ … but can’t quite get yourself there?
  • Are you worried about pent-up emotions tipping you off balance?
  • Do you find yourself tearful for no reason or in awkward situations?
  • Are you feeling like you ought to say what’s going on … when you hardly know … and the last thing you want is to talk about it?
  • Have negative thoughts affected your health or sabotaged your hopes?

No one gets through life untouched by trauma

A Jumble of BooksThe word trauma describes events which shock us and cause distress. Trauma can involve people or circumstances, in instances of abuse or conflict.

Or trauma can come from events far outside our influence, like natural disasters and serious accidents.

And … hard to see from outside … neglect and bullying in families and institutions where interactions are toxic can also cause trauma symptoms. For example, if your parent is an addict or your teacher is prone to displays of anger, it creates an atmosphere of fear where healthy emotional growth is affected.

Many of us have had some character-forming’ experience where the hidden hurt – emotional distress, personal loss, physical harm, or the sting of shame – remained long after the original event. With trauma, there is frequently … though not always … a mental, emotional and physiological response with lasting effects. If you were affected – by a single incident or by a situation of ongoing anguish – what makes it ‘trauma’ is the impact it has on you.

Some people find that putting trauma behind them – keeping it private and getting on with life – is the best solution. Others need to find a way of releasing trauma from mind and body.  If you are struggling to cope with trauma symptoms, it may be encouraging to know that with the support of a compassionate, accepting therapist you can take steps to reclaim your life.

Body-Mind therapy relieves trauma and calms anxiety

Therapy doesn’t change the past. However, powerful therapeutic practices can help put matters to rest enabling you to find peace.

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Intially, working with traumatic distress I go slowly and respectfully because a ‘quick fix’ is not always appropriate. Using hypnosis and guided relaxation the aim is to give you breathing space.

It may be that you just need someone to listen to you, without giving advice. However you approach this work, and mindful of the sensitive nature of the work, it is for you to set the pace of the work.

Maybe you’re wondering … “If I’ve coped this long,
does it makes sense to dig things up now”?

You pass as ‘normal’ … almost no one guesses about your brush with trauma … unless you tell them. If you’re wondering if it makes sense to start digging around in the past now, perhaps some of these questions have crossed your mind:

If I told my friends or family I was considering therapy they’d say …  “Build a bridge and get over it.” My question – is that even possible?

Wilted Rose – still beautifulAt a guess, you might tell me that “Build a bridge” is a family motto. Then I might hear you say that you can’t talk to your family or friends.

Actually, that’s appropriate.
Often with the most personal of matters, it’s best to take it ‘up or out’. … that is, to explore thoughts and feelings in a safe and private space … in case in a few weeks’ or months’ time you wish you hadn’t spilled out all your fears to your nearest and dearest. Maybe there are people who could do with hearing about how you feel … but that can happen if, and when you feel ready, and in the way that feels right for you.

In the end, you will build a bridge and get over it. However, you may want to put the past to rest first. Or throw it out … or tear it up … whichever metaphor feels like the right thing to do. Then you’ll want to make sure your bridge is a strong bridge.

I feel like I’m unfinished … that maybe parts of me got lost on the way or somehow I never got to grow up. Does that sound weird?

If you’ve spent time and energy on self-protection over a period of time, there may be aspects of yourself and your growth as a person that got sidelined. Part of the work of reclaiming your life is recognising that you may need to build some muscles you didn’t know you had – perhaps in areas like confidence, trust, resilience, independence, self-responsibility, or the art of making positive choices … and so on.

Isn’t life too short to keep the negative stuff constantly in the frame?

Well, the ‘stuff’ is there anyway. The more you ignore it, the louder or more painfully it will make its presence known. You can live with it until it becomes too unconfortable. Maybe even then, you can live with it bubbling underground. However, settling and releasing the distress of trauma will support you in living more creatively and expansively.

I’m afraid to look at this. Do I have to go through it all again?

I hear you, and the answer is “No”. As an esteemed teacher used to say, you can go around or over … you don’t need to go through the pain again. You don’t have to reactivate the trauma. The work is not always easy and that’s why it’s done at the right pace with a light touch.

You have all the resources you need …

Draw a Line in the SandIt’s your right to live your life fully, and you have the resources to do that … inside you. My job is supporting you to recognise your talents, skills and gifts so you can get on with creative living.

Many of my clients working with trauma have found self acceptance and new confidence.

They gain understanding of the ‘bigger picture’ for them, in awareness that their experience was unfair or wrong. They also learn to temper a desire to ‘put things right in the world’, through learning to take responsibility for their own life with appropriate boundaries. This means they are less likely to act out their hurt, by either wishing for revenge or over-caring for others. They come to accept that this a life’s work, and it’s their life work.

If you’re feeling stuck … email or call me to arrange a free initial session and discover if working with me is right for you.

Denise Welsh Therapist & Success CoachAs a high sensitive and an intuitive counselor, I know that trauma makes impact which can even be communicated across generations.

And, we all have a well of resilience. After experiencing personal or generational trauma, it is possible to put the past to rest.

The evidence that you  are resilient is that you’ve survived and arrived where you are in your life.

However, if your past still trips you up and you are often triggered into a time or place that’s long gone … you may be at the point where you want that pattern to be done with.

If that point is now, and if feels like it might be helpful to talk, you can call me on 07931 755 856

Or perhaps you want to find out more before making a decision … maybe things I’ve said here may resonate with you, but I understand it’s a risk trying to find someone you can trust. If you want to find out more before you call, click here
denise@yourselfesteemcoach.co.uk
to request my accessible report on new research into healing trauma.

After that, you can talk to me about how I work and book a free 30-minute telephone session.

You Are Not AloneI offer sessions wherever you are via Skype, and in personal consultations 10 minutes from central London.

If you feel ready to find out about working with me, you can arrange a free, no obligation session to find out how you can move beyond shame and self doubt and find conviction in your own worth.

•  Private Practice phone: 0207  060 5856
•  Mobile phone: 07931 755 856

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